Sorry it's been so long my internet connection wouldn't allow me to access my blog (blah) but here it is now.
Ramadan was a most interesting time. I quit fasting after about a week and a half, I gained ten pounds when I switched my daytime habits for my night time habits and it made me very sick, constant headaches, cranky all the time (we know how I can be when I’m hungry), and I felt like crap on the whole. once I was back to breakfast, lunch, and dinner at normal times all was well in the world again; when I attempted to explain to ppl that fasting made me sick they said, “No, it’s good for your health.” There was no discussion, just no, you don’t feel sick, fasting is good for you. So in the end I just lied to everyone and told them I was fasting; no, I don’t feel guilty at all.
Even though I wasn't fasting everyone else still was so there was nothing to be done during the day except wait for that dreadfully boring month to pass, ugh. Imagine if you will a month of undeserved house arrest. Glorious saints be praised for my amazing parents who sent me non-perishable foods and crafts to kill the time. This was an absolute God send, especially when I ran out of fruits and veggies and was in no mood to venture out into the market place where all the cranky, fasting shop keepers were in no mood to try to understand my heavily accented tash.
Having so much time on my hands has also lead to the development of such fascinating time killing hobbies as cleaning house, paper making, and finding new materials with which to make crafts. Yes friends, you read correctly, house cleaning- le gasp! I, who have embraced so dearly the idea of creative clutter, clean my house everyday and sweep it entirely out every other day. The sweeping is necessary only b/c my thatch roof is forever dropping bits of dirt and on the rare occasion it rains I have small rivulets of mud that come through my two windowless skylights; those funny German steins make so much sense now. Actually, mud thatching doesn’t shed nearly so badly as straw thatching so I really can’t complain- The Germans of yore had it much messier; all the same, I do have a newly found appreciation for drywall. No, what has me most alarmed is not that I clean house so often but how thoroughly I do it and the fact that I can’t go to bed until everything is exactly where is should be. I don’t think I’ll ever be my messy self again, I shall have to venture forward ever bravely, and more tidily, I guess.
The crafting with new materials is much more interesting though. I have learned that you can crochet with plastic bags! I feel most resourceful. The idea was given to me from a rumour that women in other parts of Morocco get together and crochet market bags out of used plastic bags; they are then able to sell them to local general store keepers for a little spending money of their own. I thought I might be able to do the same for the women in my site, should they have the free time to get together. The women in my site are constantly working so finding the time to have a crochet circle is improbable. Here’s hoping all the same.
A little background on why this is such an innovative idea out here in the middle of the desert. Very few communities in Morocco have trash pickup, as a matter of fact even my souk town, which, by Moroccan standards is a city, doesn’t have trash pickup. This means that in the less developed areas like mine all non-biodegradable wastes are dealt with in two ways: they are thrown to the side of the road, or are burned. Burning trash in Morocco is illegal... yet there is still no national waste management system... a conundrum- ‘though many ppl burn their trash anyway. Long explanation shortened, the trash that isn’t burned is polluting the countryside; most of this garbage is made up of candy wrappers, plastic bags, and disposable diapers. The most obvious action for a PCV such as myself to do would be to collect the garbage, no? This would be especially significant with the diapers, as they pose an immediate health hazard. The problem with this clever idea is what would I do with the garbage once collected? See above to my options... burn the plastic? Hmm, do we leave the plastic as it is- an eyesore- or burn it- thus creating toxic and environmentally harmful fumes... back to the drawing board. Ah ha! Turn the garbage into a commodity! Corporate America’s done it with all our excess corn (see any ingredient list near you) why can’t this American do it with plastic?
Environmentalists everywhere will tell you to just leave the current mess and turn your attention instead to preventing it from growing. So why can’t I just accept the fate of the environment and focus myself on other tasks? Allow me to answer this question with a story. One morning about two months ago I was sitting on the patio at a cafe sipping an espresso waiting for my friend to meet me. Mozart was playing in the background and I was watching birds as they rose and fell high above me, playing on the spiraling updraft created by the mountains surrounding the city. It was a serene moment as I watched the black birds weaving among the white birds, then I saw a bright blue bird in the group and realized I was watching probably a hundred plastic bags caught in the wind... the serenity of the moment was destroyed; even Mozart seemed garish at that moment. Every time I see a bag thrown to the side of the road I am reminded of that experience and am, therefore, unable to focus my hopes on other projects.
All of you duckies back home might thing of paper making as a quaint passtime, I know b/c I too felt that way when I lived in a country in which there is organized waste management and recycling. Now that I must either break Moroccan law and burn my waste or throw it to the side of the road I find myself seeking ways to reduce not only my plastic waste but all others too. It is with great fervour, therefore, that I recycle my scrap paper into new paper. Of course my means are very rudimentory so I can't get that thin notebook paper we are all so fond of. All the same, if anyone would like to get a letter on some of my very not fancy handmade cardstock be sure to send me a letter w/ a return address, or, of course, post it in a comment here, but I would prefer a letter for a letter. It's much more fun
Unfortunately for my boatloads of free time paper making, developing new crafting materials and cleaning house don't actually take that much time. In America our culture is to sit down with some sort of junk food and a movie at times like this. Now that I have a computer I have been able to buy a few movies but junk food (or any comfort food for that matter) is much harder to come by. For example, if I want chips and salsa I must first travel the 3km to the main road, from whence I take a taxi to the market to buy all the ingredients I need (this requires going to two different stores and one veggie stand). Then retrace all the steps to get home again- now laden with groceries. Now that I’m home I can make my salsa, first I roast the peppers, then dice everything, then mix it and set it aside to let the flavours marry. Now, I have to make the chips, first, I make the tortillas (they don’t have those here) and cut them into chips, then I heat some oil, fry said triangles, and salt them. Now I can sit down and enjoy my chips and salsa while watching a movie. Don’t think I don’t feel smug; I am quite smitten.
A final thought. Remember in my last entry when I vented about the proper use of “beg the question”? I saw it written in the “improper” form the other day and I nearly had a heart attack due to the source. It was written in a book by Michael Pollan, the man who is the Knight Professor of Journalism at Berkeley (that’s a big deal, for those of you who don’t know), a frequent contributor to The New York Times, and one of my favourite investigative authors. The fact that a man of this calibre would use such a phrase leads me to one, humbling conclusion. *le deep sigh* The English language has once again evolved and begging the question now has two meanings.
Begging the question [begıng ðıe kwestſn] 1) To argue a point without first establishing the truth of its basis. 2) To bring something to mind that was not afore mentioned.
Most gracious readers, I admit defeat and bow to the inevitable. Honestly I shouldn’t be upset that the English language continues to evolve. After all, language is no different than anything else; that which does not change with situations will die. Something the French Academy should remember, fun fact, the French Academy (no I don’t know who they are either but apparently they have some sway over the French Language) will not allow the language to change. Pronunciations do not change, meanings of words are never altered, and words are neither added nor subtracted from the official language. I don’t know how they do it but this seems to be their primary purpose in existing.
Until next time my dearest friends.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Five months in and still learning new things.
Fun Moroccan Fact: Women don’t take their husbands last name, they keep their own. More interestingly, even though they move into their husbands’ house- and this often means leaving their own village- they do not take their husbands family as a part of themselves. I am referring to the idea of the wife becoming a part of the husband’s family, ie “mother-in-law.” (the amazirt call them the parents of my husband/wife) Another example, even if I were to marry a Smith from Golden and move to Golden I would still consider myself a Pullen of Arvada my entire life. I imagine the adoption of the husband’s family is a product of our culture of taking on the last name so I see it as interesting. I fixate on this point b/c it created an Erika-puts-her-cultural-foot-in-her-cultural-mouth moment.
Remember my telling you guys that my site is all one big family? Well that means that all the families share the same name and when I leave the site it’s such a small village that, when asked where I live, I tell them Ait (the people of) that last name because nobody knows the village. Everyone knows that family though. Well I mentioned that to my host sister (who is a member of that family) and she laughed and said yes, it’s a small ighram and they are all related. Well some women were talking about this same thing a few days later, and I didn’t understand everything they were saying but I kind of was following. One woman said, yeah I have to tell people I live in Ait ____ b/c nobody know where _____ is. Then a bunch of the women got defensive that the place shouldn’t be called Ait _____ (It’s common to call bled tribes by the founding family’s name instead of coming up with a real name) So they looked to me to solve their dispute, remember I didn’t understand most of what they said so I decided to answer honestly. I said, When I talk to the gendarms I have to call it Ait ____ (bad idea). All the women threw their hands in the air and informed me that none of them were of that last name, that was when I learned the women who called it Ait ____ was one of the single women of that last name and all the other women had married into the village and, therefore, do not identify with my village.
Idle thought, because I have too much time on my hands thanks to Ramadan, marriage in Europe (specifically England is what I’m referencing but it’s pretty much the same across the board) just two or three centuries ago (a few hundred years is a “just” in the anthropologists mind) were not unlike these marriages. Women would have arranged marriages or be married off to anyone their parents could afford to marry them too and even so the woman would be considered part of her family from that region and not really a member of her husband’s family. She was just “accepted” into the cool kid group if she had a son.
So for simplification of explaining relationships out in the boondocks of Morocco, think of England in the mid 15 or 1600’s. I specify the boondocks because the big cities are much more revolutionary, in Marrakech people even date, not openly and they certainly don’t hold hands, but there is relationship building before marriage. The social upheaval of the rebellious youths is upon us, Lord have mercy.
In other news, Ramadan is going well. It started four days ago and, actually, it’s not as hard as I had thought. Actually, I’m kind of cheating, I’ve changed my day life for my night life, I stay up and eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner at night till morning call to prayer at 4 am. After call to prayer I go to bed and stay there till about 11 am. Then I just have 8 hours to kill before I can eat again.
Remember my telling you guys that my site is all one big family? Well that means that all the families share the same name and when I leave the site it’s such a small village that, when asked where I live, I tell them Ait (the people of) that last name because nobody knows the village. Everyone knows that family though. Well I mentioned that to my host sister (who is a member of that family) and she laughed and said yes, it’s a small ighram and they are all related. Well some women were talking about this same thing a few days later, and I didn’t understand everything they were saying but I kind of was following. One woman said, yeah I have to tell people I live in Ait ____ b/c nobody know where _____ is. Then a bunch of the women got defensive that the place shouldn’t be called Ait _____ (It’s common to call bled tribes by the founding family’s name instead of coming up with a real name) So they looked to me to solve their dispute, remember I didn’t understand most of what they said so I decided to answer honestly. I said, When I talk to the gendarms I have to call it Ait ____ (bad idea). All the women threw their hands in the air and informed me that none of them were of that last name, that was when I learned the women who called it Ait ____ was one of the single women of that last name and all the other women had married into the village and, therefore, do not identify with my village.
Idle thought, because I have too much time on my hands thanks to Ramadan, marriage in Europe (specifically England is what I’m referencing but it’s pretty much the same across the board) just two or three centuries ago (a few hundred years is a “just” in the anthropologists mind) were not unlike these marriages. Women would have arranged marriages or be married off to anyone their parents could afford to marry them too and even so the woman would be considered part of her family from that region and not really a member of her husband’s family. She was just “accepted” into the cool kid group if she had a son.
So for simplification of explaining relationships out in the boondocks of Morocco, think of England in the mid 15 or 1600’s. I specify the boondocks because the big cities are much more revolutionary, in Marrakech people even date, not openly and they certainly don’t hold hands, but there is relationship building before marriage. The social upheaval of the rebellious youths is upon us, Lord have mercy.
In other news, Ramadan is going well. It started four days ago and, actually, it’s not as hard as I had thought. Actually, I’m kind of cheating, I’ve changed my day life for my night life, I stay up and eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner at night till morning call to prayer at 4 am. After call to prayer I go to bed and stay there till about 11 am. Then I just have 8 hours to kill before I can eat again.
Thoughts and Opinions
This is going to be an opinion entry; I have it separate from my usual update/ anecdote entry so you can skip it if you don’t really want to hear my ranting. This also involves a short quest inside the inner workings of my mind (scared or intrigues?)
This is a super random thought that arose in a very stream-of-consciousness route. I can’t remember where I heard it but someone was trying to sound intelligent so instead of saying “that brings up the question...” they said “that begs the question...” I wasn’t part of the conversation so I couldn’t correct them but the misuse of this word put my mind on the track of debates and arguments in general and how they are often confused and debate is, tragically, an art that is dying before our very eyes and people don’t even realize it. For those of you who don’t know/ have forgotten here is a review of the rules. The party that wants to make the change, I think their called the support, goes first. They present why they feel the status qua needs to be changed with points and proof (reliable evidence). Then they sit down and wait while the other side presents. The second party, the defence, then stands up and defends the status qua via the support’s arguments; if they’re very talented they can slip their own points into their argument. There are, of course, other rules such as never address the other side- you aren’t trying to change your opponent’s mind, you’re persuading the audience to agree w/ you not them, no adhom- insulting-, no here-say –rumors or things that can’t be proven (i.e. she said, “I’m going to kill you,” is here say unless there are witnesses/ recordings), and no begging the question. This brings us full circle to what put me on the topic, to beg the question means to make an argument that is based on something not previously established/ defined; the point not previously established is the question that has been begged. For example, to say “Sinners go to Hell” begs the question that Hell exists. The proper form of that point would be to first prove that Hell exists, and then prove that sinners go there. Begging the question is especially common with people who are debating opinions and ideas.
Fun Fact, in the official debate forum the rules are only broken if the opposing party notices and calls it out. Rather like in the court of law, one attorney has to call out the other attorney’s ere, (you know, “objection your honor...”)
Btw, yes my mind went through all of these steps of defining debate, then the rules just to arrive at the topic of the debate- of course I already knew these things so it only took a fraction of a second to skim the interesting points.
This brings us, finally, to my opinion entry; I have a couple of thoughts. First, the art of debate is fading into the annals of history and the only places you see them anymore are in High School clubs and the courts; this is actually really tragic because the debate form is much more useful than people realize. We could avoid so many stupid fights if we could all just approach things in a more debate like manner. This idea is best applied in the context of relationships because the only way you’re going to get two ppl wanting to approach things in this style is if both parties want to work through the issue. I say “form” and “style” because you are trying to persuade the other party to see a) agree with you or b) see where you’re coming from. That, by the nature of the beast, is not a debate.
Scenario 1: (The argument) A couple are walking down the street when the classic “woman in the red dress” walks past and smiles at the guy. The boyfriend nods and notices that she’s a pretty woman but doesn’t rubber neck or anything. The girlfriend is hurt and becomes jealous and accuses the man of being a pig then refuses to speak to him the rest of the evening thus ruining the entire date.
Scenario 2: (The debate) A couple are walking down the street when the classic “woman in the red dress” walks past and smiles at the guy. The boyfriend nods and notices that she’s a pretty woman but doesn’t rubber neck or anything. The girlfriend is hurt so she says, (note says, not shouts or accuses) “It makes me feel insecure when you stare at other women, I feel like you don’t think I’m pretty enough for you anymore.” To which said boyfriend responds, “You are the most beautiful woman in the world and I’m the luckiest man in the world that you walk with me in public. I felt it would be rude of me not to acknowledge when someone greets us on the street.”
The discussion might continue for a time back and forth with both sides making points, but they eventually come to a resolution and enjoy the rest of their evening AND have a better understanding of one another. Several days later, they are walking down the street and another pretty woman smiles at the man. He puts his arm around his girlfriend’s waist/ shoulder and nods at the woman in a cordial manner. Behold, girlfriend knows he is just being polite and boyfriend is being considerate to girlfriend’s feelings...Of course in real life “boyfriend” might consider doing the same with any woman and not just attractive woman, just to avoid unwittingly building a complex w/in said girlfriend.
Like I said before this plan only really works w/ relationship b/c both ppl have to be willing to listen and share their opinions/ emotions. Also, if trying to apply this, do remember that ppl play follow the leader. If one person loses their temper and starts yelling the other person will, most likely, follow suit.
My second opinion is pertaining to the loss of the art of debate. The “Abortion Debate” is total bullshit. Think about it, I want you to sit down and look at the cesspit of words that is a product of the two sides hurling arguments at the one another.
From the very first, both sides are guilty of breaking the most fundamental rule and destroying the entire illusion of a debate. They’re trying to change their opponent’s mind, not the audiences.
The “Pro- Life” side makes argument after argument of the un-ethicality of abortion, and that it’s murder, etc on and on (btw they are very thorough about proving the murder side of their arguments but totally drop the ball on the question of ethics, stop begging the question and define/ defend what you mean and what your basis of ethics, please). This is all well and good but they never shut-up. This makes it impossible for them to hear the “Pro- choice’s” opinion. Also, they are forever resorting to adhom calling the other side “murders” etc.
Now the “Pro-Choice” side doesn’t even try to maintain a debate form, this is probably because they don’t realize that, since they are what is the current action and “pro-life” is trying to change that they are the defence. That means that to make a debate they have to hear and respond to the supports arguments. They don’t. Instead they go on and on about amendment rights, and the danger of illegal abortions, etc. (we all know the arguments) Here they, too, are guilty of begging the question, they are very thorough about proving how dangerous illegal abortions are; but nobody ever defines why the choice is theirs to make (“my body my choice” begs the question that you own the other body too, if this is your defence it, too, needs to be defended). Just like their opponent, pro-choice, too, never shuts-up to hear the other side
This is not a debate, its two groups of small children screaming at each other with their hands clapped over their own ears so they can’t hear what the other side is saying.
The most frustrating thing is that these people are so busy proving they’re right they can’t see that they aren’t even arguing the same topic. This farce of an argument will never be resolved if the two sides don’t grow up and see they aren’t on the same page, actually, they aren’t even in the same book at the moment. Pro-life is screaming about ethics and souls. Pro-life is screaming about human nature and statistics. If these people don’t learn to sit down, shut-up, and not interrupt they will just continue to make meaningless noise pollution forever.
All this because someone miss used “begging the question,”... at least I’m never bored.
This is a super random thought that arose in a very stream-of-consciousness route. I can’t remember where I heard it but someone was trying to sound intelligent so instead of saying “that brings up the question...” they said “that begs the question...” I wasn’t part of the conversation so I couldn’t correct them but the misuse of this word put my mind on the track of debates and arguments in general and how they are often confused and debate is, tragically, an art that is dying before our very eyes and people don’t even realize it. For those of you who don’t know/ have forgotten here is a review of the rules. The party that wants to make the change, I think their called the support, goes first. They present why they feel the status qua needs to be changed with points and proof (reliable evidence). Then they sit down and wait while the other side presents. The second party, the defence, then stands up and defends the status qua via the support’s arguments; if they’re very talented they can slip their own points into their argument. There are, of course, other rules such as never address the other side- you aren’t trying to change your opponent’s mind, you’re persuading the audience to agree w/ you not them, no adhom- insulting-, no here-say –rumors or things that can’t be proven (i.e. she said, “I’m going to kill you,” is here say unless there are witnesses/ recordings), and no begging the question. This brings us full circle to what put me on the topic, to beg the question means to make an argument that is based on something not previously established/ defined; the point not previously established is the question that has been begged. For example, to say “Sinners go to Hell” begs the question that Hell exists. The proper form of that point would be to first prove that Hell exists, and then prove that sinners go there. Begging the question is especially common with people who are debating opinions and ideas.
Fun Fact, in the official debate forum the rules are only broken if the opposing party notices and calls it out. Rather like in the court of law, one attorney has to call out the other attorney’s ere, (you know, “objection your honor...”)
Btw, yes my mind went through all of these steps of defining debate, then the rules just to arrive at the topic of the debate- of course I already knew these things so it only took a fraction of a second to skim the interesting points.
This brings us, finally, to my opinion entry; I have a couple of thoughts. First, the art of debate is fading into the annals of history and the only places you see them anymore are in High School clubs and the courts; this is actually really tragic because the debate form is much more useful than people realize. We could avoid so many stupid fights if we could all just approach things in a more debate like manner. This idea is best applied in the context of relationships because the only way you’re going to get two ppl wanting to approach things in this style is if both parties want to work through the issue. I say “form” and “style” because you are trying to persuade the other party to see a) agree with you or b) see where you’re coming from. That, by the nature of the beast, is not a debate.
Scenario 1: (The argument) A couple are walking down the street when the classic “woman in the red dress” walks past and smiles at the guy. The boyfriend nods and notices that she’s a pretty woman but doesn’t rubber neck or anything. The girlfriend is hurt and becomes jealous and accuses the man of being a pig then refuses to speak to him the rest of the evening thus ruining the entire date.
Scenario 2: (The debate) A couple are walking down the street when the classic “woman in the red dress” walks past and smiles at the guy. The boyfriend nods and notices that she’s a pretty woman but doesn’t rubber neck or anything. The girlfriend is hurt so she says, (note says, not shouts or accuses) “It makes me feel insecure when you stare at other women, I feel like you don’t think I’m pretty enough for you anymore.” To which said boyfriend responds, “You are the most beautiful woman in the world and I’m the luckiest man in the world that you walk with me in public. I felt it would be rude of me not to acknowledge when someone greets us on the street.”
The discussion might continue for a time back and forth with both sides making points, but they eventually come to a resolution and enjoy the rest of their evening AND have a better understanding of one another. Several days later, they are walking down the street and another pretty woman smiles at the man. He puts his arm around his girlfriend’s waist/ shoulder and nods at the woman in a cordial manner. Behold, girlfriend knows he is just being polite and boyfriend is being considerate to girlfriend’s feelings...Of course in real life “boyfriend” might consider doing the same with any woman and not just attractive woman, just to avoid unwittingly building a complex w/in said girlfriend.
Like I said before this plan only really works w/ relationship b/c both ppl have to be willing to listen and share their opinions/ emotions. Also, if trying to apply this, do remember that ppl play follow the leader. If one person loses their temper and starts yelling the other person will, most likely, follow suit.
My second opinion is pertaining to the loss of the art of debate. The “Abortion Debate” is total bullshit. Think about it, I want you to sit down and look at the cesspit of words that is a product of the two sides hurling arguments at the one another.
From the very first, both sides are guilty of breaking the most fundamental rule and destroying the entire illusion of a debate. They’re trying to change their opponent’s mind, not the audiences.
The “Pro- Life” side makes argument after argument of the un-ethicality of abortion, and that it’s murder, etc on and on (btw they are very thorough about proving the murder side of their arguments but totally drop the ball on the question of ethics, stop begging the question and define/ defend what you mean and what your basis of ethics, please). This is all well and good but they never shut-up. This makes it impossible for them to hear the “Pro- choice’s” opinion. Also, they are forever resorting to adhom calling the other side “murders” etc.
Now the “Pro-Choice” side doesn’t even try to maintain a debate form, this is probably because they don’t realize that, since they are what is the current action and “pro-life” is trying to change that they are the defence. That means that to make a debate they have to hear and respond to the supports arguments. They don’t. Instead they go on and on about amendment rights, and the danger of illegal abortions, etc. (we all know the arguments) Here they, too, are guilty of begging the question, they are very thorough about proving how dangerous illegal abortions are; but nobody ever defines why the choice is theirs to make (“my body my choice” begs the question that you own the other body too, if this is your defence it, too, needs to be defended). Just like their opponent, pro-choice, too, never shuts-up to hear the other side
This is not a debate, its two groups of small children screaming at each other with their hands clapped over their own ears so they can’t hear what the other side is saying.
The most frustrating thing is that these people are so busy proving they’re right they can’t see that they aren’t even arguing the same topic. This farce of an argument will never be resolved if the two sides don’t grow up and see they aren’t on the same page, actually, they aren’t even in the same book at the moment. Pro-life is screaming about ethics and souls. Pro-life is screaming about human nature and statistics. If these people don’t learn to sit down, shut-up, and not interrupt they will just continue to make meaningless noise pollution forever.
All this because someone miss used “begging the question,”... at least I’m never bored.
Saturday, August 7, 2010
There's No Place Like Home
Well friends, my two weeks of training/air conditioning/ swimming pool/ consistent internet access is at an end; and so I say goodbye to Oz. Now it’s back to the bled with me. Just in time for Ramadan. I have had this threat of the month of fasting looming over my head for some time now (ppl start asking if I fast around June) I have decided that yes, I am going to fast. Not all the way though, they aren’t allowed to drink water during the day, and I won’t give up my water. I stay inside all day because it’s cooler in my house (my “cool” house is 100 degrees) No, I will continue to drink my nine liters of water and be bewildered that I don’t pee. I know that means I need to drink more but I can’t, there aren’t enough hours in the day. As it is I spend the whole day with a bottle attached to my face. Oh well, at least I’m not in Tata (it’s 140 there)... Actually, that’s what I say every time I think it’s too hot to live.
Speaking of water, the water here in Oz is so weird! It tastes ever so slightly like mold, yum.
Anyway, I’m off on another adventure fraught with bus riding (yay for CTM- the one with A/C) and taxis.
I learned a great deal about both potential projects and Moroccan culture/ Islamic views of sexuality this week and I want to tell you guys everything but I’m sitting at the bus station and my bus is due to leave in a few minutes so I’m afraid that will have to wait until next time. It will probably be another essay so be prepared. Pop some popcorn and enjoy.
I should leave you guys with something though. OK...
“We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.”
Speaking of water, the water here in Oz is so weird! It tastes ever so slightly like mold, yum.
Anyway, I’m off on another adventure fraught with bus riding (yay for CTM- the one with A/C) and taxis.
I learned a great deal about both potential projects and Moroccan culture/ Islamic views of sexuality this week and I want to tell you guys everything but I’m sitting at the bus station and my bus is due to leave in a few minutes so I’m afraid that will have to wait until next time. It will probably be another essay so be prepared. Pop some popcorn and enjoy.
I should leave you guys with something though. OK...
“We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.”
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Americans by the Pool
I would like to begin by thanking my dear brother for the hugely entertaining comments he left on my last posts. I was rather tickled, and thanks for the news updates too, it's really nice to know what going on in your lives. I'm having a grand adventure but I rather like to hear about everyone's adventures too (be them as grand as learning to walk on water or as wee as finding an ice cream bar in the freezer that had been forgotten about)
Never underestimate the healing power of a shower. The hotel we’re having our meetings/ training at has showers, bathtubs, and - glorious saints be praised- a swimming pool. When we arrived at the hotel after an 8 hour bus ride without a/c in 120 degree weather I wanted to do everything all at once. I haven’t had a shower since May and I haven’t even seen a bathtub since the hotel in Philly back in March.
That isn’t to say I don’t bathe, of course, but bathing for me involves boiling a kettle of water on my stove then pouring it into a large bucket and adding cooler tap water until it’s a safe temperature. (I say “cooler” instead of “cool” because the weather is so hot even the tap water is between warm and hot depending on the time of day.) Then I sit on a stool in by bathroom and use a cup to clean myself. Being able to takes baths and showers has totally made up for the fact that we are sitting in training sessions from 8:30 am until 5:30 pm everyday for the last week and have more of the same next week. Blah.
On a brighter note, we have the weekend off from meetings. I spent the day sitting with the other PC ppl here with me reading by the pool, occasionally jumping in to cool off (I swear we’re a mile from the sun) and drinking over-priced coke (yes, dear friends, they have coke here- a little slice of home I can have in my fridge)and eating the Moroccan version of pizza (It's not too bad either). I hadn’t realized how much I needed this break. I don’t want to whine, and don’t think I’m not happy as a clam here, b/c I love where I am and what I’m doing, but I’m exhausted. Before today there has been no such thing as a “day off.” No matter where I go or what I do I am still a stranger living in a strange land. There is no taking a break from having to speak a foreign language or having to eat unfamiliar foods (they eat the goats head here, it’s an honor to be served one). Ha! side note, my yuckomiter is officially busted, I at sheep butter the other day and my mouth registered it as "not yummy" but it wasn't until I had eaten the appropriate three to four tablespoons worth that if occurred to me I would have thought this disgusting back home, weird eh? If I’m at home people, especially little kids, come to my door all the time asking for water, or to see my house, or all sorts of random things. They’re very cute and respectful so I am always happy to indulge them (until they want me to give them my belongings, I draw the line at that) Also, even if I’m telling myself I’m taking the day off and not studying my language or working on developing projects for my site b/c I need the day off I still have to visit w/ ppl from my site. They don’t understand that the simple act of living in Morocco is tiring, so if I blow them off for a full day they are hurt. Like I said, I needed the break.
Speaking of projects, the purpose of these training meetings is to help us brain storm idea to help better the lives of our sites. My mind is so full of project ideas that my community needs it’s spinning. Now if I can just draw up a project to fulfil these needs I’ll be all set to start working with my site.
Another purpose for getting my staj (the ppl I came here with and who are also in the Health Education Sector with me) to come to these meetings was to do language test to see if our language skills have improved since we finished our official language training and have only been studying on our own. I have increased my language skills by two levels! I was in Intermediate Low and I am now an Intermediate High! Don’t think I don’t feel smug, because I do. I am very proud of myself. My tester was very impressed with me. For those that don’t know Intermediate High is the level you would be expected to be at after roughly five or six semesters of college level language course. I have done it in four months, and two of those months were without the aid of a teacher. ‘Though credit where credit is due, I have gone to see a tutor about six times in the last two months; so not 100% me, but pretty close. I shall choose to be smug anyway. Lol Oh, and I found a Spanish grammar book so I’ve started teaching myself Spanish; but his is a Moroccan book so all the explanations are in French. That means I’m teaching myself Spanish via French and, by necessity, reviewing a great deal of my French too. This came in handy on my eight hour bus ride b/c I me a girl on the bus who lives in Majorca (an island off the coast of Spain) who only spoke Arabic and Spanish. It was so much fun, she would speak in Spanish and I could totally understand her and I would speak in French and she could understand me! Languages are a lot more fun than I ever gave them credit. (I finally understand your interest in Linguistics, “Aurora”- you know who you are ;P) On the down side, with all this learning of foreign languages I find myself forgetting English at an alarming rate. Oy vay, you’ll never get everything all at once will you?
Never underestimate the healing power of a shower. The hotel we’re having our meetings/ training at has showers, bathtubs, and - glorious saints be praised- a swimming pool. When we arrived at the hotel after an 8 hour bus ride without a/c in 120 degree weather I wanted to do everything all at once. I haven’t had a shower since May and I haven’t even seen a bathtub since the hotel in Philly back in March.
That isn’t to say I don’t bathe, of course, but bathing for me involves boiling a kettle of water on my stove then pouring it into a large bucket and adding cooler tap water until it’s a safe temperature. (I say “cooler” instead of “cool” because the weather is so hot even the tap water is between warm and hot depending on the time of day.) Then I sit on a stool in by bathroom and use a cup to clean myself. Being able to takes baths and showers has totally made up for the fact that we are sitting in training sessions from 8:30 am until 5:30 pm everyday for the last week and have more of the same next week. Blah.
On a brighter note, we have the weekend off from meetings. I spent the day sitting with the other PC ppl here with me reading by the pool, occasionally jumping in to cool off (I swear we’re a mile from the sun) and drinking over-priced coke (yes, dear friends, they have coke here- a little slice of home I can have in my fridge)and eating the Moroccan version of pizza (It's not too bad either). I hadn’t realized how much I needed this break. I don’t want to whine, and don’t think I’m not happy as a clam here, b/c I love where I am and what I’m doing, but I’m exhausted. Before today there has been no such thing as a “day off.” No matter where I go or what I do I am still a stranger living in a strange land. There is no taking a break from having to speak a foreign language or having to eat unfamiliar foods (they eat the goats head here, it’s an honor to be served one). Ha! side note, my yuckomiter is officially busted, I at sheep butter the other day and my mouth registered it as "not yummy" but it wasn't until I had eaten the appropriate three to four tablespoons worth that if occurred to me I would have thought this disgusting back home, weird eh? If I’m at home people, especially little kids, come to my door all the time asking for water, or to see my house, or all sorts of random things. They’re very cute and respectful so I am always happy to indulge them (until they want me to give them my belongings, I draw the line at that) Also, even if I’m telling myself I’m taking the day off and not studying my language or working on developing projects for my site b/c I need the day off I still have to visit w/ ppl from my site. They don’t understand that the simple act of living in Morocco is tiring, so if I blow them off for a full day they are hurt. Like I said, I needed the break.
Speaking of projects, the purpose of these training meetings is to help us brain storm idea to help better the lives of our sites. My mind is so full of project ideas that my community needs it’s spinning. Now if I can just draw up a project to fulfil these needs I’ll be all set to start working with my site.
Another purpose for getting my staj (the ppl I came here with and who are also in the Health Education Sector with me) to come to these meetings was to do language test to see if our language skills have improved since we finished our official language training and have only been studying on our own. I have increased my language skills by two levels! I was in Intermediate Low and I am now an Intermediate High! Don’t think I don’t feel smug, because I do. I am very proud of myself. My tester was very impressed with me. For those that don’t know Intermediate High is the level you would be expected to be at after roughly five or six semesters of college level language course. I have done it in four months, and two of those months were without the aid of a teacher. ‘Though credit where credit is due, I have gone to see a tutor about six times in the last two months; so not 100% me, but pretty close. I shall choose to be smug anyway. Lol Oh, and I found a Spanish grammar book so I’ve started teaching myself Spanish; but his is a Moroccan book so all the explanations are in French. That means I’m teaching myself Spanish via French and, by necessity, reviewing a great deal of my French too. This came in handy on my eight hour bus ride b/c I me a girl on the bus who lives in Majorca (an island off the coast of Spain) who only spoke Arabic and Spanish. It was so much fun, she would speak in Spanish and I could totally understand her and I would speak in French and she could understand me! Languages are a lot more fun than I ever gave them credit. (I finally understand your interest in Linguistics, “Aurora”- you know who you are ;P) On the down side, with all this learning of foreign languages I find myself forgetting English at an alarming rate. Oy vay, you’ll never get everything all at once will you?
Monday, July 26, 2010
Internet in the Bled- One of Life's Little Jokes
One of Moroccan PCVs’ favourite jokes is technology in Morocco. There are just so many things to laugh at about it. First, the fact that all the technological toys that can be purchased in the USA can also be found here (at least in the big cities) yet more than half the country can’t read. This is humorous to those of us trying to improve the literacy rates b/c we are continually wonder how it is these ppl use their toys –the answer is pictures, and those that can’t read can’t afford iphones and the ilk. Another joke, many of our PCVs don’t have running water but they have DSL...hmm. Before this year there were two PCVs who had no electricity; one of those sites recently became attached to the electric grid and within three months of gaining electricity that PCV had internet. I, myself, have every amenity I could want and I recently purchased internet which works more or less like the MyFi in the US. The comedy of this is that, even though the modem is attached to my computer it runs at the speed of dial up with the reception of stealing wifi from the apartment one floor up and two apartments over. With any luck my reception will one day be reasonable, until that time please don’t be hurt that my blog updates continue to be slow.
But for the next two weeks(ish) I will be in Oz so I will have fabulous reception (enchallah) so if you wish to reach me I will have frequent access to the glories of the interweb and you, my beloved and fearless readers.
LE GASP! A scandal of the most scandalous nature! Do you remember, most devoted readers, that is said in one of my previous posts that I live in a duplex? Well, please allow me to correct this misconception. First, please allow me to introduce you to my neighbour, Mina. It’s impossible to tell age in this country b/c everyone is undersized due to poor nutrition and they age quickly and not-at-all-gracefully b/c they lead hard lives. My guess at her age is late thirties early forties b/c her oldest son is in his late teens. She has three sons, who are wonderful humans and always help her with everything and are eternally patient with their kid sister who is somewhere between 4 and 8 (like I said, no gauging age) who I suspect has a mild developmental disorder of some sort. Mina’s husband died two years ago leaving her to raise four children with no income and no way of making an income (there are three jobs for women in my province: cooking, cleaning, or selling their bodies- the idea that a woman should work is so foreign to people that when I tell them I worked on a ambulance-there is no word for EMT- they assume I cleaned it). Having no income means that Mina feeds, clothes, and buys supplies for her children using sedaka (charity) one of the pillars of Islam is that you give a portion of your monthly income to the poor (specifically widows and the old w/o family).
Mina is very amazing, and she’s taken me in as her kid, she is continually sending her children over to my house with bread or buttermilk (a treat that ppl love to drink here- I use it for pancakes and biscuits). Last week I was laid out for two days with a migraine which i suspect was a product of dehydration. When she found out I had been sick and hadn’t been able to even cook for myself she lectured me. I should have kicked the wall or called her name, she would have made me soup. Next time I am to ask for help, it’s like having a mom... actually it’s exactly like having a mom b/c she demands I tell her when I’m leaving site and where I’m going. One day I’ll cut the apron strings I’m sure.
Now you know Mina; moving on to the scandal. When I moved into my house Mina invited me over for couscous (a dish I eat at her house at least once a week now) where she told me I was always welcome anytime and if I felt lonely and didn’t want to sleep alone she told me the door is always open. I told her she was welcome at my house as well; to this she vigorously shook her head. She said that my landlord was very rude to her, didn’t like her, and threatened to hit her if she ever went to my house. (There are laws and courts that protect Mina from this fate, but she has no education and doesn’t know that) I was shocked and said I was very sorry and I couldn’t understand how anyone couldn’t like her. She said thank you. A few days later the whole story came out and I was flabbergasted. Are you ready my friends? My landlord is her late husband’s brother and what I had thought to be my half of a duplex is, actually, the half of Mina’s house that my landlord inherited when his brother passed away and then stole out from under his sister-in-law and her four children.
I was in shock when I found this out, I said I was so sorry but couldn’t think of anything else to say. Mina said she it was OK b/c it meant that we could be neighbours. I almost cried.
I would hate to end on a sombre not like that so here are two more anthropological observations. First, let’s build on the poor nutrition I referred to earlier. Not all the children in my site are under-nurished, the most telling signs of family prosperity are the childrens sizes. If the kids are fat the family is wealthy, even if their clothes are dirty and ratty you know the family has a decent if not posh income if the wee ones are fat all over. I specify all over b/c I don’t mean like on those Send –Money-To-African-Orphan shows where you see small children with huge tummies and spindly arms and legs (that’s severe starvation and their tummies are all swollen b/c their tissues are water logged and tummies are full of parasites- ew) No, I mean pure, unadulterated, chubby babyness. Probably a fourth of my site has enough money to have happy pot bellied kids. There isn’t much of a middle ground, either their rolly pollies or their rail thin and you have no idea how old they are. Mina’s children are an extreme version (Looking at her oldest son I can tell they were poor even when her husband was alive) I know that, let’s call him Kevin, is seventeenish b/c he is taking the test to see if he can get into college next year. They take that when they finish high school at eighteen. When I fisrt met him I thought he was thirteen. He is pencil thin, maybe 5’4”, and –judging by the bow of his legs- I think he had rickets as a small child. I might focus on the undersized nature of these ppl but don’t be fooled into thinking them frail. They are tiny but wicked strong, I saw Kevin toss a sack of grain almost as tall as he was to another guy and I can barely pull the sack when it was on the ground.
I promised I’d tell you guys about the Moroccan education system too. All schools are public so all education is free, even university; the family has to buy books and supplies. Just as with our public schools is very good for those who are in affluent areas in these areas b/c the more money the area has the better the teachers will be. Differing from our set up in which the family has to live in the are to get the good school, students are able to travel to better areas to get better educations and some schools provide dormitories for those unlucky students who don’t have family to live with in the desired area. All ppl have equal access to education until they finish highschool, then they take a test called the Bach to see if they can continue on to University. We can associate it with the SATs /ACTs except it is exponentially more stressful for one reason: only the top 40% of everyone in all of Morocco who takes the test each year continue on to University. That means that even if all the test takers in the entire country score over 90% on the exam only the best 40% will continue to University. Ouch. To make the situation even harder on all test takers, if you fail one year you can take the test again the next year. I’m not sure if there is a limit to the number of times you can take the exam. Still this means that you are not only competing with everyone in your age range in the country, you are also competing with previous years. Also, there is no secret choice B, you failed the test you have to pay for University. No, you just don’t go on to higher learning.
Yet another depressing point, there is very little job market here. One of the guys in my CBT site who helped our group learn about Moroccan culture has a degree in English and works construction, when there’s work at all. Another case, one of my favourite tajine and lentil places is owned and run by a man with a degree in Chemical Engineering. This is not just a product of the poor job market though, it’s also a great deal to do with the culture. You don’t leave your family and the thought of living alone is so alien ppl don’t trust Moroccans that live alone. So a lot of ppl will finish their degrees then move back home to be with their families; not all, some move to big cities or France or the US too. But a large enough number don’t use their degrees that it’s noteworthy.
Hmm, I had hoped that having a computer would mean I could post more often and not bog you guys down with huge tomes of blog... The posts are more often, at least.
But for the next two weeks(ish) I will be in Oz so I will have fabulous reception (enchallah) so if you wish to reach me I will have frequent access to the glories of the interweb and you, my beloved and fearless readers.
LE GASP! A scandal of the most scandalous nature! Do you remember, most devoted readers, that is said in one of my previous posts that I live in a duplex? Well, please allow me to correct this misconception. First, please allow me to introduce you to my neighbour, Mina. It’s impossible to tell age in this country b/c everyone is undersized due to poor nutrition and they age quickly and not-at-all-gracefully b/c they lead hard lives. My guess at her age is late thirties early forties b/c her oldest son is in his late teens. She has three sons, who are wonderful humans and always help her with everything and are eternally patient with their kid sister who is somewhere between 4 and 8 (like I said, no gauging age) who I suspect has a mild developmental disorder of some sort. Mina’s husband died two years ago leaving her to raise four children with no income and no way of making an income (there are three jobs for women in my province: cooking, cleaning, or selling their bodies- the idea that a woman should work is so foreign to people that when I tell them I worked on a ambulance-there is no word for EMT- they assume I cleaned it). Having no income means that Mina feeds, clothes, and buys supplies for her children using sedaka (charity) one of the pillars of Islam is that you give a portion of your monthly income to the poor (specifically widows and the old w/o family).
Mina is very amazing, and she’s taken me in as her kid, she is continually sending her children over to my house with bread or buttermilk (a treat that ppl love to drink here- I use it for pancakes and biscuits). Last week I was laid out for two days with a migraine which i suspect was a product of dehydration. When she found out I had been sick and hadn’t been able to even cook for myself she lectured me. I should have kicked the wall or called her name, she would have made me soup. Next time I am to ask for help, it’s like having a mom... actually it’s exactly like having a mom b/c she demands I tell her when I’m leaving site and where I’m going. One day I’ll cut the apron strings I’m sure.
Now you know Mina; moving on to the scandal. When I moved into my house Mina invited me over for couscous (a dish I eat at her house at least once a week now) where she told me I was always welcome anytime and if I felt lonely and didn’t want to sleep alone she told me the door is always open. I told her she was welcome at my house as well; to this she vigorously shook her head. She said that my landlord was very rude to her, didn’t like her, and threatened to hit her if she ever went to my house. (There are laws and courts that protect Mina from this fate, but she has no education and doesn’t know that) I was shocked and said I was very sorry and I couldn’t understand how anyone couldn’t like her. She said thank you. A few days later the whole story came out and I was flabbergasted. Are you ready my friends? My landlord is her late husband’s brother and what I had thought to be my half of a duplex is, actually, the half of Mina’s house that my landlord inherited when his brother passed away and then stole out from under his sister-in-law and her four children.
I was in shock when I found this out, I said I was so sorry but couldn’t think of anything else to say. Mina said she it was OK b/c it meant that we could be neighbours. I almost cried.
I would hate to end on a sombre not like that so here are two more anthropological observations. First, let’s build on the poor nutrition I referred to earlier. Not all the children in my site are under-nurished, the most telling signs of family prosperity are the childrens sizes. If the kids are fat the family is wealthy, even if their clothes are dirty and ratty you know the family has a decent if not posh income if the wee ones are fat all over. I specify all over b/c I don’t mean like on those Send –Money-To-African-Orphan shows where you see small children with huge tummies and spindly arms and legs (that’s severe starvation and their tummies are all swollen b/c their tissues are water logged and tummies are full of parasites- ew) No, I mean pure, unadulterated, chubby babyness. Probably a fourth of my site has enough money to have happy pot bellied kids. There isn’t much of a middle ground, either their rolly pollies or their rail thin and you have no idea how old they are. Mina’s children are an extreme version (Looking at her oldest son I can tell they were poor even when her husband was alive) I know that, let’s call him Kevin, is seventeenish b/c he is taking the test to see if he can get into college next year. They take that when they finish high school at eighteen. When I fisrt met him I thought he was thirteen. He is pencil thin, maybe 5’4”, and –judging by the bow of his legs- I think he had rickets as a small child. I might focus on the undersized nature of these ppl but don’t be fooled into thinking them frail. They are tiny but wicked strong, I saw Kevin toss a sack of grain almost as tall as he was to another guy and I can barely pull the sack when it was on the ground.
I promised I’d tell you guys about the Moroccan education system too. All schools are public so all education is free, even university; the family has to buy books and supplies. Just as with our public schools is very good for those who are in affluent areas in these areas b/c the more money the area has the better the teachers will be. Differing from our set up in which the family has to live in the are to get the good school, students are able to travel to better areas to get better educations and some schools provide dormitories for those unlucky students who don’t have family to live with in the desired area. All ppl have equal access to education until they finish highschool, then they take a test called the Bach to see if they can continue on to University. We can associate it with the SATs /ACTs except it is exponentially more stressful for one reason: only the top 40% of everyone in all of Morocco who takes the test each year continue on to University. That means that even if all the test takers in the entire country score over 90% on the exam only the best 40% will continue to University. Ouch. To make the situation even harder on all test takers, if you fail one year you can take the test again the next year. I’m not sure if there is a limit to the number of times you can take the exam. Still this means that you are not only competing with everyone in your age range in the country, you are also competing with previous years. Also, there is no secret choice B, you failed the test you have to pay for University. No, you just don’t go on to higher learning.
Yet another depressing point, there is very little job market here. One of the guys in my CBT site who helped our group learn about Moroccan culture has a degree in English and works construction, when there’s work at all. Another case, one of my favourite tajine and lentil places is owned and run by a man with a degree in Chemical Engineering. This is not just a product of the poor job market though, it’s also a great deal to do with the culture. You don’t leave your family and the thought of living alone is so alien ppl don’t trust Moroccans that live alone. So a lot of ppl will finish their degrees then move back home to be with their families; not all, some move to big cities or France or the US too. But a large enough number don’t use their degrees that it’s noteworthy.
Hmm, I had hoped that having a computer would mean I could post more often and not bog you guys down with huge tomes of blog... The posts are more often, at least.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
A Very Long Product of Too Much People Watching Time
I’ll start off this time with the boring business stuff. My dad has been having trouble getting letters to me; they keep being returned labeled “incomplete address”. After much sleuthery he deduced that the problem was that the US Post Office doesn’t speak French so they don’t know Maroc, you need to write “Morocco”.
Now on to the interesting stuff; this will be a slightly too sympathetic-to-be-objective-anthropological-view of my site.
Remember when I boasted about being at a third year level with language skills? Funny story, that’s in the dialect of the language I studied... not the dialect from my irgham (new word for douar) That being the case I spend a lot of time sitting and listening with the hope that I will eventually know what they’re all saying. This is further complicated by the fascinating anthropology of my site.
First, let me outline the way languages work in Morocco- specifically out in the bled (Arabic for douar and implies (accurately) areas super isolated from major cities, with low/no educated ppl and few if any amenities. This is more than a little complex so hold onto your scholars cap and I’m sorry if I confuse you. The primary language spoken throughout Morocco is Moroccan Arabic, the English word for it is Darija, my tribal dialect calls it tarapt. The next major language spoken by all educated people, city people, and most shop keepers, is French. (In my site there are a handful of French speakers). After French comes the tribal languages; there are, for our purposes, three of these. I can only remember the names of two of them b/c the third one is not spoken in any of the areas we have PCV so we don’t learn it or focus on it. The two I know of are Tamazirt – tam- a- zeert (technically what I speak), and Tashlahate- tash-la-haat (practically what I speak) *Enter our descent into the madness that is language in my site*
Waxxa, not only are there three tribal languages but there are about a dozen dialects of each language depending on what tribe you are from. Add regional accents to that and you get a linguistics dream world and a PCVs nightmare. So the reason I said I quasi speak both languages is b/c the area I am in is the gateway region between the Tam speaking tribes and the Tash tribes. Therefore I speak a dialect that uses Tamazirt verbs, Tashlahate nouns, and Arabic adjectives just to be ornery. Further confusion ensues, I speak tam but we call it tash, until I meet a tash proper speaker; then I have to telapathetically (oh the ways in which I am) know that they speak tash proper so I amend it saying I speak tam but call it tash. Thank God ppl here know their languages are baffling so when I say that they know I speak the hybrid of the two and have more patience with me then they might have with someone who spoke tam or tash proper. (Yes there is a “proper” form of these-there is even a tam TV station, no I can’t understand it)
Is tfaHmt? (Do you understand?) Good. Now it gets better. My site has a funny quirk, it was started by one very large family and is now made up of only one family. The way they avoid incest is quite ingenius. All the women in the irgham are educated as highly as they can reach-I’ll expand on that shortly- then are married out of the site; basically they have MRS educations b/c the higher their education the wealthier the men they marry. On the flip side, the men are educated as highly as they can be and either grow up and move away flat out, or else have a wife and family here and work in another city and send money home. I’m sure you’re wondering from whence these wives come if all the women in site are family. An excellent question for which I have two words Arranged Marriage. *More on that anon* The reason this quirk is pertinent to my piece on language is b/c all of these blushing brides come from different regions; that means, you guessed it, there are a lot of different dialects here. Phew!
About a fourth of the women in my site speak only Arabic (some regions are like that I guess). The rest of the women speak dialects of tash (tam) from all over Morocco. This is a real problem because if you understand one dialect of tash you can basically get them all (so long as you know what you’re listening too) but if you’re trying to LEARN tash here it suck b/c everyone wants to help you... so everyone tells you THEIR word for something. At the end of the day you will have been told eight or nine words for the same thing and you won’t remember any of them. BTW The only reason I know the bit about the regions is b/c one of the sons of the irgham who permanently moved away came to visit his mother and he explained all of this to me in French (I am so glad i studied that in University)- This guy is a professor at the University of Meknes so he speak French with a French accent, otherwise I might not have gotten this much info. The Moroccan French accent is way slurred (rather like the way we slur y’all and a’ight). For example “un hour” becomes “unur”. Have I mentioned oy vay yet? Just in case... OY VAY!
I’m really glad Brahim came home to visit and explained that to me b/c I thought I was going insane. Before I asked a couple girls here the same questions to see what answers I got. The questions I asked were things I sort of knew the answer too anyway this was just to get a cross section. First, “we speak tam but call it tash? Pahalpahal?” G1: “La (no) machi pahalpahal (not the same) there are three berber dialects and you are speaking a mix of two.” Me: “So it’s OK I can’t understand the TV tam?”G1: “Very OK you don’t speak that dialect.” Same questions. G2: “Kifkif.” (here dialect for same) “The TV speaks what we speak, you’ll get there little by little. Have patience.” I had thought I knew what was going on until I got two answers (I understand everything G1 says all the time and only half what G2 says BTW) When Brahim came by I asked him what was going on and he explained everything.
On the up side, all these languages make my listening skills amazing! Really, on the whole I love my site and my understanding skills are miles ahead of other PCVs who came with me to Morocco. It’s just my speaking skills that aren’t going anywhere, I still talk like Yoda with the vocab of a three year old. “Go, I must. Food I have. Dieing from hunger I am me.” (that’s what they say instead of I’m hungry it’s my hunger is killing me) This cultural bit reminds me. One of the biggest hang-ups I have with understanding is that I lack the culture to understand the question. I understand the words, but I can’t find the question within the words. Does that make sense? For example. There are rarely questions we ask each other that haven’t been asked before. What’s your name? Where are you from? Etc. When someone asks a question out of thin air and in an unfamiliar way we get lost: “Peanuts come from the ground, almonds from trees, walnuts from trees too yeah?” This is just something I find interesting that I wanted to share.
Two things that really help me are that ppl here know I’m learning a trillion dialects so they’re eternally patient. Also, and this is probably buying me more time than other ppl might get, I am the walking definition of knock out in Morocco. Cultural difference, in the States anyone can be beautiful as long as they rock what they have properly; therefore in the States I’m pretty but so are a lot of other ppl so I’m taken for granted ;) j/k. Here (and this is all Morocco) they have a list of what is pretty and the more checks you have on the list the prettier you are. No jealousy or competition (only as far as looks go, don’t get me wrong. There’s jealousy and competition) Would you like to know the list? Tall, light skin, fine hair, dark brown eyes, thick (curvy, not stupid lol), and (the cherry on top) a facial mole. Who does that sound like? ME! That buys me so much patience it’s hilarious. Don’t think this is going to give me a big head. There is nothing like living in a new country, with new cultures, new languages, and lacking skills the natives think are as natural as can be so they laugh when you get excited about drawing water from a well or think you’re handicapped b/c you can’t clean your clothes properly to keep you humble.
I wasn’t lying about the lack of jealousy of looks. Ppl just seem to feel you’re born pretty or you aren’t. Literally the first thing women say (few men, it’s Hachuma for men to talk about it in public with women) when they meet me is “you’re pretty.” “Thank you.” “No, you’re really pretty.” One of my sisters was so excited to tell me I’m pretty she said “you’re pretty and I love to look at you. You fill my heart to the fullest to look at you.” (This intra-gender affection is very normal)
This leads into my piece about arranged marriages. Yes my friends, they are alive and well here in Morocco. At first I was mortified, some women see their husbands for the first time on the wedding night. (Actually this is usually the case so most would be more appropriate than some). The more time I spend here seeing this culture the more I realize it works well and I can see why they think we’re scandalous for (le gasp) DATEING! It’s a simple matter of misunderstanding, like weird questions. In this culture men and women never interact. They men are at the cafe or the store all day (my site is special b/c the men work most sites the men do next to nothing). The women are in the fields or cleaning the house all day. At social functions the men are in one room and the women are in another. Husbands and wives rarely even vacation together. The only time a husband and wife are together is when they are eating dinner or in bed. That being the case an arranged marriage works for the culture. I am not saying it’s great. Lord knows I would never take it for myself, nor defend it; I’m just saying it isn’t the crime against humanity I (and I’m sure I’m not alone) once thought it to be. With this situation multiple wives also make sense b/c it’s like having a sister to help with chores (and fully share jokes about this stranger you’ve both married). So much time spent w/o the opposite gender means a lot of time spent w/ your own. This means there is a great deal of affection that is shared w/o being afraid of seeming homosexual. Also, homosexuality is such a profane idea here they don’t even consider it as a possible event. Thus men hold hands no worries. And so my sister can say poetic things like looking at you fills my heart with all the love in the world w/o fear of seeming weird.
On the flip side, Moroccans can’t imagine a world in which men and women works and play together so they think the only reason we date is for perverse indulgence. I love to tell women and (on one occasion under classroom circumstances and therefore not Hachuma) a small group of guys that in the States husbands and wives spend a lot of time together, and we don’t have the constant community that they have here, so it’s a lot of time spent together alone. I enjoy explaining the need to date in our culture so we can see if we can stand spending that much time together. It always has a mind boggling effect on the women here. They always say they couldn’t spend that much time w/ their husbands. (This is a much more complex idea then the cruel idea it seems on the surface. Maybe I’ll be able to explain it one day.)
Alright friends, I have rambles quite a bit and probably bored many of you. I’ll attempt to explain the Moroccan education system to you next time but it’s a bit complicated as well. Don’t worry, not like the language bit, that’s almost cruel enough to warrant attention from the Geneva Convention ;)
Now on to the interesting stuff; this will be a slightly too sympathetic-to-be-objective-anthropological-view of my site.
Remember when I boasted about being at a third year level with language skills? Funny story, that’s in the dialect of the language I studied... not the dialect from my irgham (new word for douar) That being the case I spend a lot of time sitting and listening with the hope that I will eventually know what they’re all saying. This is further complicated by the fascinating anthropology of my site.
First, let me outline the way languages work in Morocco- specifically out in the bled (Arabic for douar and implies (accurately) areas super isolated from major cities, with low/no educated ppl and few if any amenities. This is more than a little complex so hold onto your scholars cap and I’m sorry if I confuse you. The primary language spoken throughout Morocco is Moroccan Arabic, the English word for it is Darija, my tribal dialect calls it tarapt. The next major language spoken by all educated people, city people, and most shop keepers, is French. (In my site there are a handful of French speakers). After French comes the tribal languages; there are, for our purposes, three of these. I can only remember the names of two of them b/c the third one is not spoken in any of the areas we have PCV so we don’t learn it or focus on it. The two I know of are Tamazirt – tam- a- zeert (technically what I speak), and Tashlahate- tash-la-haat (practically what I speak) *Enter our descent into the madness that is language in my site*
Waxxa, not only are there three tribal languages but there are about a dozen dialects of each language depending on what tribe you are from. Add regional accents to that and you get a linguistics dream world and a PCVs nightmare. So the reason I said I quasi speak both languages is b/c the area I am in is the gateway region between the Tam speaking tribes and the Tash tribes. Therefore I speak a dialect that uses Tamazirt verbs, Tashlahate nouns, and Arabic adjectives just to be ornery. Further confusion ensues, I speak tam but we call it tash, until I meet a tash proper speaker; then I have to telapathetically (oh the ways in which I am) know that they speak tash proper so I amend it saying I speak tam but call it tash. Thank God ppl here know their languages are baffling so when I say that they know I speak the hybrid of the two and have more patience with me then they might have with someone who spoke tam or tash proper. (Yes there is a “proper” form of these-there is even a tam TV station, no I can’t understand it)
Is tfaHmt? (Do you understand?) Good. Now it gets better. My site has a funny quirk, it was started by one very large family and is now made up of only one family. The way they avoid incest is quite ingenius. All the women in the irgham are educated as highly as they can reach-I’ll expand on that shortly- then are married out of the site; basically they have MRS educations b/c the higher their education the wealthier the men they marry. On the flip side, the men are educated as highly as they can be and either grow up and move away flat out, or else have a wife and family here and work in another city and send money home. I’m sure you’re wondering from whence these wives come if all the women in site are family. An excellent question for which I have two words Arranged Marriage. *More on that anon* The reason this quirk is pertinent to my piece on language is b/c all of these blushing brides come from different regions; that means, you guessed it, there are a lot of different dialects here. Phew!
About a fourth of the women in my site speak only Arabic (some regions are like that I guess). The rest of the women speak dialects of tash (tam) from all over Morocco. This is a real problem because if you understand one dialect of tash you can basically get them all (so long as you know what you’re listening too) but if you’re trying to LEARN tash here it suck b/c everyone wants to help you... so everyone tells you THEIR word for something. At the end of the day you will have been told eight or nine words for the same thing and you won’t remember any of them. BTW The only reason I know the bit about the regions is b/c one of the sons of the irgham who permanently moved away came to visit his mother and he explained all of this to me in French (I am so glad i studied that in University)- This guy is a professor at the University of Meknes so he speak French with a French accent, otherwise I might not have gotten this much info. The Moroccan French accent is way slurred (rather like the way we slur y’all and a’ight). For example “un hour” becomes “unur”. Have I mentioned oy vay yet? Just in case... OY VAY!
I’m really glad Brahim came home to visit and explained that to me b/c I thought I was going insane. Before I asked a couple girls here the same questions to see what answers I got. The questions I asked were things I sort of knew the answer too anyway this was just to get a cross section. First, “we speak tam but call it tash? Pahalpahal?” G1: “La (no) machi pahalpahal (not the same) there are three berber dialects and you are speaking a mix of two.” Me: “So it’s OK I can’t understand the TV tam?”G1: “Very OK you don’t speak that dialect.” Same questions. G2: “Kifkif.” (here dialect for same) “The TV speaks what we speak, you’ll get there little by little. Have patience.” I had thought I knew what was going on until I got two answers (I understand everything G1 says all the time and only half what G2 says BTW) When Brahim came by I asked him what was going on and he explained everything.
On the up side, all these languages make my listening skills amazing! Really, on the whole I love my site and my understanding skills are miles ahead of other PCVs who came with me to Morocco. It’s just my speaking skills that aren’t going anywhere, I still talk like Yoda with the vocab of a three year old. “Go, I must. Food I have. Dieing from hunger I am me.” (that’s what they say instead of I’m hungry it’s my hunger is killing me) This cultural bit reminds me. One of the biggest hang-ups I have with understanding is that I lack the culture to understand the question. I understand the words, but I can’t find the question within the words. Does that make sense? For example. There are rarely questions we ask each other that haven’t been asked before. What’s your name? Where are you from? Etc. When someone asks a question out of thin air and in an unfamiliar way we get lost: “Peanuts come from the ground, almonds from trees, walnuts from trees too yeah?” This is just something I find interesting that I wanted to share.
Two things that really help me are that ppl here know I’m learning a trillion dialects so they’re eternally patient. Also, and this is probably buying me more time than other ppl might get, I am the walking definition of knock out in Morocco. Cultural difference, in the States anyone can be beautiful as long as they rock what they have properly; therefore in the States I’m pretty but so are a lot of other ppl so I’m taken for granted ;) j/k. Here (and this is all Morocco) they have a list of what is pretty and the more checks you have on the list the prettier you are. No jealousy or competition (only as far as looks go, don’t get me wrong. There’s jealousy and competition) Would you like to know the list? Tall, light skin, fine hair, dark brown eyes, thick (curvy, not stupid lol), and (the cherry on top) a facial mole. Who does that sound like? ME! That buys me so much patience it’s hilarious. Don’t think this is going to give me a big head. There is nothing like living in a new country, with new cultures, new languages, and lacking skills the natives think are as natural as can be so they laugh when you get excited about drawing water from a well or think you’re handicapped b/c you can’t clean your clothes properly to keep you humble.
I wasn’t lying about the lack of jealousy of looks. Ppl just seem to feel you’re born pretty or you aren’t. Literally the first thing women say (few men, it’s Hachuma for men to talk about it in public with women) when they meet me is “you’re pretty.” “Thank you.” “No, you’re really pretty.” One of my sisters was so excited to tell me I’m pretty she said “you’re pretty and I love to look at you. You fill my heart to the fullest to look at you.” (This intra-gender affection is very normal)
This leads into my piece about arranged marriages. Yes my friends, they are alive and well here in Morocco. At first I was mortified, some women see their husbands for the first time on the wedding night. (Actually this is usually the case so most would be more appropriate than some). The more time I spend here seeing this culture the more I realize it works well and I can see why they think we’re scandalous for (le gasp) DATEING! It’s a simple matter of misunderstanding, like weird questions. In this culture men and women never interact. They men are at the cafe or the store all day (my site is special b/c the men work most sites the men do next to nothing). The women are in the fields or cleaning the house all day. At social functions the men are in one room and the women are in another. Husbands and wives rarely even vacation together. The only time a husband and wife are together is when they are eating dinner or in bed. That being the case an arranged marriage works for the culture. I am not saying it’s great. Lord knows I would never take it for myself, nor defend it; I’m just saying it isn’t the crime against humanity I (and I’m sure I’m not alone) once thought it to be. With this situation multiple wives also make sense b/c it’s like having a sister to help with chores (and fully share jokes about this stranger you’ve both married). So much time spent w/o the opposite gender means a lot of time spent w/ your own. This means there is a great deal of affection that is shared w/o being afraid of seeming homosexual. Also, homosexuality is such a profane idea here they don’t even consider it as a possible event. Thus men hold hands no worries. And so my sister can say poetic things like looking at you fills my heart with all the love in the world w/o fear of seeming weird.
On the flip side, Moroccans can’t imagine a world in which men and women works and play together so they think the only reason we date is for perverse indulgence. I love to tell women and (on one occasion under classroom circumstances and therefore not Hachuma) a small group of guys that in the States husbands and wives spend a lot of time together, and we don’t have the constant community that they have here, so it’s a lot of time spent together alone. I enjoy explaining the need to date in our culture so we can see if we can stand spending that much time together. It always has a mind boggling effect on the women here. They always say they couldn’t spend that much time w/ their husbands. (This is a much more complex idea then the cruel idea it seems on the surface. Maybe I’ll be able to explain it one day.)
Alright friends, I have rambles quite a bit and probably bored many of you. I’ll attempt to explain the Moroccan education system to you next time but it’s a bit complicated as well. Don’t worry, not like the language bit, that’s almost cruel enough to warrant attention from the Geneva Convention ;)
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